Aaru, another deeply moving article from you. I can clearly identify with d fear emotion in my short career span. Fear goes hand in hand with anxiety, stress, losing confidence in oneself n …….nervousness about how d day will play out.
Interestingly, in my first ever job in a large establishment in Calcutta, I had none of d fear emotions described above! In fact, just d opposite. Loved d job, super confident n made no mistakes. Maybe becoz the set up was great n I was just a tiny cog in d large wheel. Or was it
becoz I was earning for myself only, not for my family.
Subsequently, as d paradigm shifts n you become responsible for yr family, expectations grow n dissatisfaction sets in n one wants to change jobs for a better tmrw, which I did several times! Expectations n dissatisfaction are felt by d owners n bosses also n they make it known even while you are doing your job perfectly well.
To address d subject of d said article, in my opinion fear cannot be conquered by ‘deciding to conquer it’….. one should equip n arm oneself with attributes that would boost one’s confidence n self-worth. Becoz these are ‘seen’ by d powers that Be. Working hard is old-fashioned n unappreciated. Working smartly is d key to success. And when you are successful, fear doesn’t come near you!
I love that your first job experience was freeing for you. A lot of people work their entire lives and never get that experience. Yes to working smart! This is wonderful!
Aarti, this is quite an eye opener really 👍, even for todays’s generation (I belong to the long ‘retired’ generation).
However, in retrospect, I started my work life at a very fragile level (finance wise). So despite working very hard & giving excellent results, I always felt insecure. Despite doing fairly well professionally and settling down my 2 lovely daughters, Insecurity continued to haunt me as my second nature.
And interestingly, this ‘second nature’ declined rapidly after my retirement at the age of 67 😂😂 So here I am enjoying my retired life confidently & positively 🤗
Thanks for sharing. If we do well professionally and that feeling still exists, as it did for me, that was an indication that this exists within almost entirely.
So this 'second nature' is an interesting concept. As far as I understand, that which is our nature doesn't just go away, if the outer situation is no longer there.
For me, though it didn't seem like it on the surface, I was insecure in many other parts of life - relationships, wealth/ money/ finances, trusting myself with life decisions, honesty and vulnerability with self etc.
Aaru, another deeply moving article from you. I can clearly identify with d fear emotion in my short career span. Fear goes hand in hand with anxiety, stress, losing confidence in oneself n …….nervousness about how d day will play out.
Interestingly, in my first ever job in a large establishment in Calcutta, I had none of d fear emotions described above! In fact, just d opposite. Loved d job, super confident n made no mistakes. Maybe becoz the set up was great n I was just a tiny cog in d large wheel. Or was it
becoz I was earning for myself only, not for my family.
Subsequently, as d paradigm shifts n you become responsible for yr family, expectations grow n dissatisfaction sets in n one wants to change jobs for a better tmrw, which I did several times! Expectations n dissatisfaction are felt by d owners n bosses also n they make it known even while you are doing your job perfectly well.
To address d subject of d said article, in my opinion fear cannot be conquered by ‘deciding to conquer it’….. one should equip n arm oneself with attributes that would boost one’s confidence n self-worth. Becoz these are ‘seen’ by d powers that Be. Working hard is old-fashioned n unappreciated. Working smartly is d key to success. And when you are successful, fear doesn’t come near you!
I love that your first job experience was freeing for you. A lot of people work their entire lives and never get that experience. Yes to working smart! This is wonderful!
Aarti, this is quite an eye opener really 👍, even for todays’s generation (I belong to the long ‘retired’ generation).
However, in retrospect, I started my work life at a very fragile level (finance wise). So despite working very hard & giving excellent results, I always felt insecure. Despite doing fairly well professionally and settling down my 2 lovely daughters, Insecurity continued to haunt me as my second nature.
And interestingly, this ‘second nature’ declined rapidly after my retirement at the age of 67 😂😂 So here I am enjoying my retired life confidently & positively 🤗
Thanks for sharing. If we do well professionally and that feeling still exists, as it did for me, that was an indication that this exists within almost entirely.
So this 'second nature' is an interesting concept. As far as I understand, that which is our nature doesn't just go away, if the outer situation is no longer there.
For me, though it didn't seem like it on the surface, I was insecure in many other parts of life - relationships, wealth/ money/ finances, trusting myself with life decisions, honesty and vulnerability with self etc.